Allow me to reminisce a bit- grab your self a coffee, get cozy, & travel back in time with me. Back to when I was younger, thinner, single & dreaming. When it came to a husband & my future I had my ideals, things I wanted in a man, & things I wanted to do & be in the future. The following is a list of the some things I planned for, hoped for, & wanted for my future: we'll start with a husband- I used to say "I want him to have blond hair, blue eyes, wear blue jeans (HA), & love the Lord." I remember saying "short is okay". Okay so I'd say "check, check on that. Next I wanted to get married, wait a yr. or so, & then have four children before the age of 30. Again, "check, check".
Then there were things we wanted, hoped & planned for the future that didn't happen. We said on our honeymoon that for our 10th anniversary we want to go to Alaska. (This isn't exactly Alaska!!) We also said we want to take our family to a third world country someday just to experience it (this could still happen in the future).
BUT guess what? There were things I DID NOT know, think of, or plan for the future... like- I never dreamt I'd be a pastor's wife, didn't plan for my hubby to be a pastor, had no clue we'd live in Bradford Co. for a yr., had no idea I'd enjoy being a wife & mother as much as I do, I did not know that marriage gets BETTER with time & I'd love my husband more now then I did back then (a deeper kind of love), and I had absolutely NO CLUE that 10 yrs. would go by so QUICKLY!! It has been a journey- not perfect by any means, but wonderful!! I heard statistics today on the radio that said many marriages don't make it past 7 yrs- those poor people jumped ship to soon. They miss the good part. Marriage is like wine- it gets better with age!! I don't know about you, but I'm in it for the LOOONG haul- lookin' forward to what the next 10 yrs. may hold.
So good to hear from you and about the 'older days'! I thought a lot of my younger days in the past few weeks and love that my teenage years are not full of regrets. (Not perfect, but wonderful!) You really played a part of this in my life. You stuck it out with me and made my life a blast!!! I love remembering when we both started dating, then excited about how our men asked us to get married, planned for our 'big' day, and now we are writing that we love our husbands even MORE when we both celebrated our 10th Wedding Anniversary! I think that's really cool! Again, happy anniversary and blessings to you guys with many, many, many, many more years together! Love you!
ReplyDeleteYou are so right about hanging in there for the long haul. Ron & I have been married 42 yrs and I honestly can say that I love him more today than when we said our marriage vows. Marriage is one of the hardest relationships to maintain but it is one of the most rewarding and satisfying 2nd only to our relationship with Christ. I can remember times thinking that there is no way we could survive this problem but we did. We had to work through some really tough stuff but the Lord was faithful in answering my prayers and giving me the wisdom and insights that I needed. Have you ever read the book "Sacred Marriage"? It is wonderful and you can read it together as many at LHF have done. It is in the LHF library or I have a copy that you can read. In fact there are 4 or 5 couples doing a study right now using this book. Love reading your blog! Have a great day! Love ya, Heidi
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